Wednesday, March 5, 2008


1) Superstition as a status of mind. The material / object / things around us / idea / thoght is the impression of anything in the mind. The understanding of the things by an individual depends on what he has learned so far and so on. Based on this some people do not believe in some things as they compare with what they believe. Then those which are not matching with their state of mind at that time they consider as superstition.

2) Dharma is the merit of activity of an individual. This is relative. Generally accepted actions that are acceptable to the society is marked as dharmic. In this context any individual have two actions one - for self, and the other - for society. The dharma of an individual to satisfy him and the people around him and the societ that supports him are important and they are classically parted as ishta and poortha.
3) Religion
I follow the definition of Vivekananda et. al. The way of life, a culture, a social binding, a class that defines the rituals for the better life. It is a culture and not be named and classified. It varies and evolves.
4) Prayer is the best way to control breath, get into meditation, lighten the feelings, sooth the pain etc. The different diety and the variety of prayers are for the choice of the individual. Practicing will have a psycho-neuro effect. It unites the feelings of the participants. The sathsang will have a unique thought process when thay are into it.
5) GuruThe classic definition is the person who takes us to light. There could be many taking to more bright spots. In todays world, the short interaction and paid membership makes one to follow a 'guru'. But the guru is one who understand the constitution of the sishyan and the sishyan understand the guru. For someone it does not require long time, a click may do. May not be seen too. But they see eachother through the divya drushti. Yes, it do happen.
Common items are mirror (kannadi), lamp (deepam), dress (vasthram), clean rice (akshatham)
The other optional include
filled vessal (nirakutam)
gold (swarnam)
lady (sthree)
Cow (pashu)
ghee (naye)
book (grandham)
Sindoor (kumkumam)
Fruits (pasham)
beetal leaf (vettila)
pan (adayka)
wooden vessal (mara-pathram)
All of them are nice to see and makes us happy too.
7) Onam:

Onam is to remumber the great devotee of Lord Vishnu (the Emperor Maha Bali who was the grandson of Prahlada - the great devotee of Lord Narasimha). Mahabali received benediction and liberation with the blessings of the Lord, who had assumed the form of Vamanadeva, the dwarf incarnation.

Onam is celebrated in August-September in Kerala. Onam is a ten-day festival marked by women and kids creating beautiful floral patterns in front of their houses, pujas for Lord Vishnu, feasting and boat races.

Basically Mahabali is an asura and the ruler being asuras, the keraliates must be closer to asura guna, despite being the devotee of vishnu. The people who settle abroad and have a desire to go abroad are asuras (mayans are those who are in America too). Once your birth land is left and the brahmana swabhava is lost. That is the reason why brahmanas were not allowed to cross the sea traditionally. I do not know hoe the ‘vasudaiva kudumbakam’ ; ‘lokaa samastha….’ etc. get along with this vision.

A contradiction in the story is that the mahabali is in the vamana avathara time. The fact that parasurama came after vamana; mahabali must not have ruled kerala. If the vamana story is to be believed the ‘parasurama created the kerala’ cannot be true. Probably mahabalipuram must be the maveli’s kingdome and is in tamilnadu. Hope Maveli knows that kerala is looking forward for him and not the mahabalipuravasikal.

Do not worry about these and try to festive the coming ONAM. New cloths, good sadhya, happy get-togethers etc. - A cheerful life that is what Lord Krishna want us to lead. Geetha also says ‘MA SUCHA (means - do not be sad).

8) Ugadi and Vishu:

Vishu is celebrated in a big way in Kerala. Families wake up in the morning and make sure they feast their eyes on good things like a picture of God, grains, flowers, fruit and gold. It is believed seeing these first thing in the morning of the New Year will bring them prosperity and wealth throughout the year.

These are two festivals that celebrate the New Year in different communities of south India. Ugadi is celebrated in March-April. Vishu is celebrated in mid-April. The word Yugadi means the day of the inauguration of the Yuga or Age. The Year is computed and the starting of the year is considered as vishu. The best things are to be seen on this day as KANI, so that the coming days will have similar sight.

The Vishu / Ugadi must be the same day as the computations/concepts are the same. This year there was a difference of 4 days. The yuga for us and other south Indians cannot be different. There is an error on the computation and that need to be corrected.

Do not worry about the kaala (time/year) computations enjoy seeing good things on VISHU and there after too. All that are prescribed in the ashtamangalyam are good to see. The must are the new cloth, money, gold, book, close relatives like mother, sister et. al., fruits, vegetables, grains (navadhanyam).


Many do believe in rahukalam and such kalas!!

Considering the uniform sunrise time as 6:00a.m.and sunset as 6:00 p.m rahukalam is given as .
Monday 7:30 to 9:00
Tuesday 15:00 to 16:30
Wednesday 12:00 to 13:30
Thursday 13:30 to 15:00
Friday 10:30 to 12:00
Saturday 9:00 to 10:30
Sunday 16:30 to 18:00

The Rahu Kalam will be of an hour and a half duration for every day. Rahukalam is always in the day time only.

“Eleven bays had a good football club”. By heart this and see that seven words are from Monday to Sunday.

Eleven is for Monday.
Count for E from the first alphabet ‘a’; you will get 5
Take one and half times and get 7:30
Thus rahu on Monday is from 7:30 to 9 am

Club is for Sunday.
Count for C from the first alphabet ‘a’; you will get 3
Take one and half times and get 4:30
Thus rahu on Sunday is from 4:30 to 6
MOTHER SAW FATHER WEARING THE TURBAN ON SUNDAY - where Mother is for Monday 7.30 - 9.00 Saw is for Saturday 9.00 - 10.30 Father is for Friday 10.30- 12.00 Wearingis for Wednedsay 12.00- 01.30 The is for Thursday 01.30- 03.00 Turban is for Tuesday 03.00- 04.30 and Sunday as it is 04.30- 06.00

Rahu kalam varies from place to place, changing every day. This is based on sunrise and sunset. The rahu kalam available on your calendar and panchangam is based on the assumption that sunrise is at 6 am and sunset is at 6 pm. One must see the sunset time sunrise changing every day. This variation can change rahukalam more than one-hour in some days.

Get rahukalam timing at your place by adding or subtracting the sunrise time from 6 and buffering the same on rahukalam. For example if the sunrise is at 6:23 and the day is Monday, the Rahukalam on the day will be 7:53 to 9:23 (not 7 to 9).

The above note is only if this makes some meaning and for those who are following and do not correct the timings. I know many following this blind!

I do not have any reason for to believe RAHUKALAM or any other kalam!!

How and why does these time? As per bharatheeya knowledge I do not see the relevance of the day (week) itself. The seven-day concept is not very relevant in any of the computations. These are only for convenience. There can be many more related questions to this – how can be Friday, Monday etc. are found good for one each god? This too is a question!!

Monday, March 3, 2008

Motivation , Stress Management, Communication and Inter Personal Relation

My Method - You Prepare
I do not teach academically. People need to relax and have an enjoyable experience and try things out for themselves in order not just to learn effectively, but also to be able to put what they have learned into effect.
I believe in an attitude of curiosity, openness and adventure, and a way of being able to find out what works in people's minds in order for them to be able to get the best out of life. As each person is different, I enable each one to discover what works best for them.
Therefore get ready with questions for us to discuss. Make it more interactive. Let the learning with me be more of experiential rather than academic.
In Organizational Behaviour, the three components are Self, Team and Organizational System. The Human element in this aspect is the Self and the Team. Human is important because the Organizational System is evolved by the performance of the individuals over a period of time.
Self is flow through Motivation, Confidence, Values, Stress, Time etc..
The Team / Group is managed by the Communication Skill and Inter Personal Relationship etc.
Motivation & Personal Confidence
Any Performance depends on the Motivation, Skill and the Opportunity. The opportunity and the Skill are very much dependent on the Motivation and Personal Confidence.
All of us are motivated externally and internally if and have confidence, though all of us could probably benefit from being more motivated and confident in at least some situations. True confidence is based on knowing that you can achieve what you need and want to, and also, very importantly, being able to deal with challenging situations in a resourceful and positive way. It means that instead of being at the mercy of our emotions, we can have our emotions supporting us.
• Feel Good!
• Manage the mind to creates good feelings and moods
• Deal with negative emotions
• Manage Stress
• Prevent, defuse and overcome tension
• Detach from and rise above problems
• Build confidence and
• Motivate yourself.
Stress Management
Many believe that their job is extremely stressful and that their work related stress was making them physically ill. Stress has been specifically implicated in heart disease, eating disorders, stroke, insomnia, ulcers, accident proneness, cancer, decreased immunity, chronic headaches, diabetes, depression, substance abuse, chronic pain, irritable bowel syndrome and chronic fatigue. In fact, estimates are that 50 to 80% of all physical disorders have psychosomatic or stress related origins.
The personal and interpersonal management skills are foundation to the coping strategies to overcome stress.
Major issue for stress is bad time management (As commonly said). But it is not Time that is to be managed and neither stress. The management of activity will lower tension and prevent the risk.
For those often essential individuals who have put too much effort for too long into what they sensed was vital activity; pushing themselves beyond the threshold of efficiency are bound to have stress / tension. Burnout does not happen to those who are never committed.
Have stressed people in the organization. Enable them to relax. So that they can far more rapidly recuperate their energies. Once they are recovered, help them re-asses their vision, review their strategies, learn new responses and regain their enthusiasm to take on their tasks more satisfyingly and efficiently.
Communication Skills & Inter Personal Relationship
One may have to interact with dissatisfied, frustrated, irate, disgruntled, impatient and sometimes abusive people around him.
It is not just enough dealing in demanding situations with other people, it is also getting people to trust you, to feel good about you and to feel wonderful themselves. It is about being able to see the other person's point of view in a way that makes it far easier to get them to see yours. It is about being able to encourage, inspire and motivate others to assist you in getting what you want in a way that also gets them what they want.
Good Skill is the mastery over
• The subtle secrets of rapport
• Getting people's attention
• Respectful assertiveness and how to take over the lead
• Handling difficult people
• How to detach and avoid taking things personally
• How to see things from the other person's point of view
• Put your own point of view across more effectively, but politely
• Create a 'Win-Win' situation,
• Willing to be unreasonable.
• How to make people feel good
• Inspire and motivate others
• Simple skills on letter / word / telephone / email / sms etc.
• Simple yet surprising language patterns
• Better communication / clean and clear words
• Reading people
• Clarifying communication
• Why people assume so much and how to constructively challenge their assumptions
• The structure and language of influence
• Body Language
Each and every individual in the organization have to feel to raise from existence through recognition to growth. Feel for the increase in effectiveness of the organization, so that the best of the resource can satisfy the needs of the organization for which it is created. Concern should be on performance improvement, capacity development and adaption to the changing environment. Methods of yester years are inadequate for problems of tomorrow.
Dr T P Sasikumar
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